BirthOrder: How Affects Personality
Accordingto Leman, K. (2008), the positions we take in the families may affectwhat we become in the future. It may explain the case as why we seethat most top world leaders are first born children in theirfamilies, and most social workers are middle-born children. AlfredAdler, an Australian psychologist, was the first person to set outthe importance of birth order. According to him, the oldest, middleand youngest children often differ in some various ways. The effectsof birth order may vary with different factors such as age gapbetween siblings and gender. We are born struggling over scarceopportunities and resources in the family. The order of birthdetermines who inherits power and who struggles to get to power(Leman, K. (2008).
Accordingto Adler, the eldest of the children is characterized by socialdominance. Other siblings often look up to them hence making themassume the role of a leader. They face the most pressure in theirfamily as their parents see them as their blueprint (Leman, K.(2008). The first born children quickly learn how to appeal to theirparents, who have high expectations for them. They expect that theywill form a good example for their younger siblings. The parents arewell determined to make them a masterpiece as they are their first torear. They try every kind of parental experiment on them. First bornchildren are advantaged as they enjoy their parent’s fullattention. They learn to be conscientious, reliable and organized andgoal oriented (Booth, A. & Kee, H. (2006). Time with theirparents may make them start acting like mini-adults. They regularlyserve as surrogate parents to younger siblings. As adults, they havebigger chances to be better parents. Having been showered with a lotof attention, they gain a strong identity with power. According toFrank Sulloway, writer of Born to Rebel (abacus), another commoncharacteristic of the first born children is that they have a cautionand aversion to risk. They prefer the company of adults and youngerchildren than their peers. They are less open to new ideas.
Middlechildren are more flexible and social. Having been sandwiched betweenyounger and older siblings, they develop a competitive nature.Competitiveness may render them to become great entrepreneurs in thefuture (Leman, K.2008). They often feel left out of the family andare always attention seekers. They have well-developed communicationskills to counter being ignored and for self-expression. Since theyare neither the precious oldest nor the vulnerable youngest, theyhave a more relaxed attitude than their elder siblings (Booth, A. &Kee, H. (2006). They tend to interact better with other people fromoutside the family than the older siblings. They start forming bondswith friends from early ages since their parent’s attention isoften focused on the youngest or the oldest sibling hence they tendto lean on their buddies. Middle children are good at negotiationslikely learned from mediating between siblings. They avoid beingboxed into either side. They tend to be unbiased and level headed.They are more understanding to the people around them and the rightpeople to talk with as they are good listeners (Booth, A. & Kee,H. (2006).
Accordingto the Journal (Birth order and trauma. (2014), the youngest of thechildren tend to be tender and selfless. It is as a result of leastdisciplining, few responsibilities and obligations and a hugeaudience they get as they grow up. Usually, as the parents age, theyno longer worry about the way they raise their children. After all,the first two grew so well there would be no need of stressing upabout the last (Booth, A. & Kee, H. (2006). They tend to be thefree-spirited, and they are more likely to develop a revolutionarypersonality and have the tendency to question the order of things intheir life. According to birth order theory, the youngest of thechildren tend to be dependent and are not good at sharing. They havetheir older siblings to look up to who always help them out wheneverthey get stranded ( Booth, A. & Kee, H. (2006). They tend tochoose an entirely different path in life away from that of theirolder siblings to prevent directly competing with them. They haveenjoyed a comfortable life as others have provided for them. Theyoften have difficulty in making decisions and taking responsibility.
Birthorder can impact strongly on a person’s way of life and even indetermining what type of people we can be in the future.
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